A clinical psychologist has suggested Ghanaian moms and dads to crack the unapproachable parenting stereotype meted out to teens in the African culture.
The early teenage decades according to international and nearby stories see loads of modifications – physical, emotional, cognitive, and social. For the duration of this time, teenage bodies, emotions, and identities alter in various techniques at diverse moments.
Speaking on JoyFM’s Household Affairs with host Edem Knight-Tay, Mr. Nortey Dua discovered that the lives of teenagers can be complicated, therefore the need to have for moms and dads to have different parenting models to make sure they do not get rid of contact with their wards.
For the two Mr. Dua and Golda Naa Adaku Addo, who is a Management Practitioner and Governance and Leadership strategist, the virtues of currently being approachable, observant, and candid ought to help moms and dads to navigate themselves by way of the complex situations they may possibly find themselves in.
“Let us use the analogy of driving a car or truck – dependent on road surface, you improve your gear alongside facet employing your split. From time to time you are accelerating, in some cases you are slowing down. You know the gear you’d not use to climb a hill. In parenting, it is not automatic. You will engage the gears and your kid needs the profit of these easy transitions.
“As they get more mature, they hope unique parenting so from time to time they can basically say ‘you scolded me in entrance of somebody and that is the significant thing’. So see these adjustments they go via. There is a time and age where you draw that youngster near. You know, by side self-discipline or not embarrassing the youngster so on and so forth, so they really don’t become bitter and they really do not distance you. There are various parenting kinds with unique outcomes….kids need to take a look at,” Mr Dua observed.
He further indicated that Ghanaian mother and father should befriend their wards considering the fact that it is a person of the approaches to stay pertinent in their life through this kind of everyday living-modifying periods.
“They have to have to sense there is a property base they can arrive to…For the teens, remember to be their mates, be there. Inquire, notice and make absolutely sure you keep on being applicable in your child’s daily life,” he added.
Citing the physical and psychological alterations adolescents go by way of these as the development of breasts for girls and the breaking of the voice, facial hair for males, he inspired parents to attract nearer to their wards as it is a delicate period of time for young people.
“All of these matters are of problem and have their psychological implications on the youngster. If you are an early developer, if you are a late developer, it is a issue. This is what your boy or girl is heading by way of in the course of this period…your mind is heading by means of the most speedy changes we can talk about. So you are hungry for understanding and your mind is growing,” he extra.
Golda Naa Adaku Addo, a mom of two also employed the system to share her expertise of remaining a guardian to a 13-12 months-old boy who is studying at the tertiary amount.
In Ghana, it is peculiar to obtain an early teenager staying admitted as a College college student because of to the country’s instructional structure. This sort of folks ought to be heading to the Senior Substantial Educational institutions but recent developments have seen rather a variety of fantastic young adolescents getting enroled in tertiary institutions.
Sharing her expertise, Golda Naa Adaku Addo indicated that although the everyday living of her son is one of a kind, he nonetheless undergoes the each individual working day adoloscent transition, therefore the want to be an lively participant in his lifestyle.
“The most appealing facet of it all is to be able to do equivalent portioning of observation and engagement. For me, that is my usual method. If I notice he is anti and agitated and there is a essential conversation we need to have to have, observing him ahead will enable me to know what time to elevate the problem, how to strategy it so that I can get the ideal comments from him,” she narrated.
She famous that parenting is the most significant occupation at any time.
“It is the most unsure work ever. Everyone’s parenting desires are various. I think the the vast majority of the mothers and fathers are so much in need to have of assistance on their own,” she additional.